With a background of construction, I am very familiar with foundations for building structures. As a minister, I am also familiar with spiritual foundations. The first being when God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit had a conversation and created a plan at the foundation of the world. Everything has a foundation. The foundation determines how well whatever you are building will not only remain, but continue to progress.
Foundational Levels of Leadership
Concerning leadership, let’s review its basis. The first foundation of leadership is with the Holy Spirit leading mankind into the Father’s will. The next level is the individual leading himself. On this level personal growth will determine how well the next level of the family will progress. No matter what example you use all levels of leadership progress from these three levels. God, the individual and the family determines the effectiveness of all other levels. This week I would like to discuss the family level from the perspective of parenting.
Leadership through Parenting
I would like to reiterate what I discussed in another blog. My wife and I have a son with disabilities. We chose years ago to lead our family of three children with godly principles and to treat our son with disabilities as a normal child. That in itself was a slow process and took much effort from my wife and me. This is also a truth shared by many families even without children with physical, emotional or mental disabilities. I heard it said this way, “Every family has some type of dysfunction.” Whether this is true or not, the effort is always challenged.
To our family, God has proven to be faithful, powerful and loving time and time again. When doctors stated that Hunter would not get any better, we believed God and did not change from following leadership principles and applying certain techniques. All I can say is that Hunter is far better with his behavior and other symptoms than with the prognosis doctors attempted to offer us. The result is in the pudding! You cannot argue with results.
Leadership techniques, faith and prayer have tremendously helped our family. Prayer does change things! Our other two children are great parents. Our older son now operates one of the major segments of our family business. I am not insinuating that everything has been a bed of roses. However, I stand firm on this principle. Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proper family leadership is the basis of community development, including the workplace. Of course, this cannot be obtained without following other principles.
Solid Foundations Promote Growth
With this in mind, when families grow churches will grow. The community and workplaces will be entrenched with integrity, morality and a respectful love for each other. The greatest challenge for many parents today is to lead their children to listen to them instead of being influenced by their peers. Many times, peer pressure creates dysfunction in the home that leaves parents in a passive attitude. Parents must be active and proactive in their children’s lives applying good techniques in their parenting. This will greatly help children through those years of being easily influenced because of their own mental and emotional development. When individuals grow the reciprocal effect will be families and organizations growing. Solid foundations promote growth!
Personal Growth has Its Value
The best way to add to the growth of a family or organization is to grow personally. This is my testimony concerning our son, our family, our church and our business. As a family, business and church leader, something you learn early on is that you cannot change others. When you attempt to change someone, you actually hinder growth by trying to be a Holy Spirit wannabe. The Holy Spirit is the only One that can change us and it has to take place from within. Of course, this is only accomplished with a willingness to be teachable and pliable. All we can do is set the example for others, even our children, and offer assistance when needed.
A Day of Discovery for Parents
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